Be Present in the Moment, Not on Social Media

Stop and think about the last time you posted something on social media. Was it a cute picture of you and your significant other on Instagram? A post-yoga class Snapchat selfie? A Facebook update about new and exciting summer plans?

Now, think about why. 

When you clicked “send” what were you hoping to get out of posting that update? Affirmation for your accomplishments? Confirmation of who you’re trying to represent yourself as? Confidence that you’re making the right choices?

As much as I hate to admit it, I have snapchatted, instagrammed, and facebooked my way through every peak and valley of my post-joining-social-media life. A date night isn’t complete without a picture worth sharing, a bike ride didn’t really happen if I don’t post it on Strava, and I’m totally guilty of putting things on my snap story to try and shape the version of myself I want people to see. 

But, focusing on social media, pulls us out of the present. Suddenly, the moments of our lives are worth only as much as their potential success as a post. We overlook achievements that aren’t photo worthy. We rush through experiences, only halfway in the moment, because we’re planning the perfect status update to tell about it. 

Instead of concentrating on how our lives feel, our attention is placed instead on how our lives look, how they sound, how well they can be captured in 140 characters. We rob ourselves of mindfulness and of any connection to the life we are actually living. 

Social media can be an amazing tool for making (and keeping) connections, but it also can’t replace the connection we need with the life we are actually living. We need to find value in our decisions and our accomplishments for ourselves, and not be looking constantly for validation from the number of likes and comments we can get. 

Live your life for yourself, for the person you are, and the person you want to become. Not for social media.

What drives you to post something on social media? Have you ever caught yourself more concerned with how to share something on social media than with the actual experience?